Calm Assertion
The inability to be calm in situations expresses a deficiency in emotional control.
The F U’s, the slander at inanimate objects or people.
As a child, this was a mechanism we used when we lacked the vocabulary or intelligence. The world was ours and no one could tell us different.
Expression
Allowing yourself to exert outwardly, physically or in some cases destructively has a direct correlation to your emotional IQ.
How you see yourself.
How you see challenges.
The inability to rein yourself in. To allow outside influence to break your hold on your fear and anger responses. Coined the ‘monkey brain’, we allow the limbric system to take charge. The fight or flight responses kick in. We are on autopilot. Pure. Emotion.
What can we do? (Pre-Emptive)
Know your triggers
Connect with what is there
Change the scenery
Take a mental note
It is a mental muscle you are building here.
Not overnight.
When you feel yourself or are unsure if you’ve flipped the lid try this.
- Breath in longer than out (ground yourself)
- What is the situation?
- How am I interpreting it?
- What is the impact it will have
Just doing the first 2 steps alone most the time will allow you to think less with your monkey brain and allow your more developed, human rationale to take over.
Give it a spin.
Be Super
